We are living in the most instant era in human history. You can summon a taxi in minutes, order food with a swipe and buy almost anything and have it arrive the same day or even within the hour!   So it’s no surprise that this mindset quietly spills into fertility with women shouting out, “I want a baby now now now.. Why isn’t it happening yet?” When in truth you haven’t given it a real chance?

One of the most damaging ideas modern fertility care has inherited is the belief that when conception doesn’t happen, something has failed. Whether that’s your ovaries, womb lining, hormones or egg health.

And yet, if you step back — not emotionally, but intelligently — that narrative doesn’t hold and my work with women for over a decade with the unconscious mind, proves this unequivocally and I'm not the only one that is seeing how the mind and body is truly linked and working intelligently for you, not against you.

From a mind-body perspective, PCOS is deeply connected to control and safety.

Your body holds onto eggs rather than releasing them because it doesn’t feel safe to let go.

Endometriosis is one of those conditions that can feel both mysterious and cruel. The pain, the fatigue, the frustration of feeling as though your body is working against you — and yet, when you start to look through the lens of mind–body connection, something extraordinary begins to emerge.

There’s a quiet war being waged — not with bombs, but with barcodes. Not on foreign lands, but in your fridge and on your fork. The battlefield? Our food system.

We’ve been conditioned — by convenience, by clever marketing, by the pace of modern life — to believe food should be fast, cheap, and easy. Supermarket shelves are lined with ultra-processed options. Food apps deliver sugar hits to your door in minutes. But this "progress" comes with a cost.

There’s a wound many women carry that often goes unseen—not just by society, but by the women themselves.

It’s not a physical wound. It’s not even something that’s easily named in casual conversation.

It’s the wound of growing up without emotional nourishment.

Most of the fertility industry is built on a model of urgency and intervention. It’s designed to override the body. To suppress, stimulate, extract, replace.

But what if your body isn’t the problem?

So many women are living in survival mode, and the thyroid — that tiny butterfly-shaped gland in the neck — often becomes the first to reflect just how out of balance things truly are.

Why are we experiencing this in such staggering numbers? And more importantly, what can we do about it?

There’s a painful, quiet belief that I see again and again in the women I work with—one they rarely say out loud, yet it sits at the core of their fertility struggle:

“Maybe I deserve this.”

“Maybe I’m broken.”

Infertility is often spoken about in medical terms—cycles, test results, treatment plans. But beneath the clinical language is something raw, human, and often unspoken:

A sense of loss, isolation, shame, and a quiet unraveling of identity.

Society has long been obsessed with the maiden. From the moment a girl blossoms into adolescence, the world begins to celebrate her. She is youth, beauty, possibility. The spotlight lingers on her from about 14 to 29—those years where she is deemed most desirable, most fertile, most valuable.

But what happens when the clock ticks past 30?

Fertility is often seen as a biological journey — a timeline of ovulation windows, hormone levels, and two-week waits. But for many of us, it’s so much more. It’s not just a path to conception… it’s an initiation of the soul.

If you’ve just left the doctor’s office with a fertility diagnosis in hand, you might be feeling overwhelmed, fearful, and rushed into the IVF fast lane. Whether you’ve been told you have low AMH, poor egg quality, PCOS, endometriosis, fibroids, or even that you’re just “too old”—take a breath.

Many individuals on a fertility journey come to me carrying more than just the physical burden of trying to conceive. Beneath the surface, their bodies hold onto past experiences, particularly those shaped by a troubled childhood and a deep need for self-protection.

In my work with women struggling to conceive, one of the most consistent patterns I see through Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis (HTMA) testing is deep cellular depletion—evidence of bodies that have been running on empty for far too long.

For many on the fertility journey, infertility feels like a battle against the body—a problem to fix, a symptom to treat, a physical roadblock to overcome but what if it is an invitation to heal your past in order to create your future?

Motherhood is often seen as the most natural progression in life, but for many women struggling with infertility, there’s more at play than just biology.

Fertility isn’t just a biological process—it’s deeply intertwined with our emotional well-being, our sense of safety, and the quality of our relationships.

For many men, the assumption is simple: “I’ve fathered one child, so my fertility is fine.” But here’s the truth—past success does not guarantee future success.

In recent years, egg freezing has been marketed as an “insurance policy” against declining fertility. With constant headlines about how fertility drops after 30, many women in their 20s and early 30s are being frightened into thinking that if they don’t act now, they may never have the chance to start a family.